What's about me?!

The emotional-spiritual protection for the family and complementary therapist.

As the person who takes care of the patient we must take measures of our physical, emotional and spiritual protection, so we can confront the best way the situation, without having necessarily a traumatic experience.

We have to depart from the point of the acceptance of death. We all will happen for this way, no matter if for illness, accident o simply a sudden death. The soul as an element and principal energy of ourself doesn't die; the soul transcends, evolves, that means through the pain or the common circumstances of life, like the disharmony in our environment and others.

If one is afraid of death, he should consider that the soul continues to exist and with the acquired experiences evolves. Therefore we should think about the following precautions and measures:

It's not easy to change our used life style, but with steadiness and the desire to find a better way we will succeed, with the help of many others that have had the same experiences. 

It is very important that you share your pain with somebody that is capable of comprising this type of situations. For this are the friends. It might also be worthwhile exploring the option to speak to a priest or pastor of your church, a doctor, a psychiatrist of your confidence.

To lock into yourself is counterproductive. This means to increase the pain without an adequate management, and finally will bring illness. This would make it at last difficult to provide adequate help to the patient.

Faith moves mountains

We want to tell you a short story extracted from a movie:

In a hospital there are two terminal ill patients, a young women and an elder man. She from her window observes every day a tree that extends a branch with a last leaf to the wall of the clinic. She says to the elder man. "On having fallen down this last leaf of the tree, I will die". The man fruitlessly was breathing her to live, to fighting to keep on living. But she had given up. It was obvious that this leaf would fall down one day. But the wisdom of this man made him take some decision. He painted a leaf on the wall where the real leaf was hanging before. One day when the young woman noticed that the old man didn't visit her any more, she went to see him - he ha passed away - and decided to go to see why the leaf hadn't fallen off yet. About this moment she decided to LIVE. This man had given her back the hope for living.

This shows us the way how we can forget the death for an instant and gain many minutes, may be even days, in our life. Time is invaluable when we desire to live, without looking with fear at those seconds gained in our life.

We own a big interior force, which prevents us from surrender, this way we avoid the pain gaining the battle.

Let's forget for an instant death, let's go to life! For those who believe in God, remember that while there is still a breeze of life there is still hope. Look at the bird furrowing the blue sky, this bird flies unconcernedly, neither ponders, nor thinks if he will die tomorrow.

There are many different therapies for us ourselves that help or mitigate our emotional wears in the care of the patient:

If we consciously allow us to have a valve for escape, like having some time for ourselves, may be for a pastime, it helps us to unload the stress and avoid the accumulation of fatigue and desperation.

We should stop blaming and having the sense of guilt. Pardoning ourselves and the patient is so important!

Faith moves mountains. For any credence faith is the major escutcheon, it's the internal force that each of us carries with him, no matter if he will die or not!

If you are looking for some orientation to overcome your emotional stress in this task, here is our recommendation for you:

Dr. Michael Smith worked the last 15 years to help emotionally and energy sensitive individuals to regain their personal power. With his "Complete Empath Toolkit" he was able to blend the best of Western psychology and self-improvement techniques with the time-tested traditions of Eastern, indigenous, and holistic medicine. In 44 practical steps he enables to master your energy and reclaim your personal power.

The physical protection

Both the patent and the relative or caretaker must bear in mind that the caretaker is (also) suffering physical weakening. Due to bad handling he could suffer lumbar pains or of his back or neck etc., depending on the type of activity he is doing with the patient.

Even if one often thinks he wouldn't have enough time to dedicate - on top of that! - to his good physical (and emotional) state, he neither could give the adequate attention to the patient.

At last, it has to be the responsibility of the relative or caretaker to dedicate certain attention and the necessary time to physical activities in order to compensate the strain and stress to his own body.

Whatever the preference to maintain his physical fitness - with (Nordic) walking, any specific sports, or simply going to the gym for doing some (well guided!) exercises to strengthen the back or the muscles in general - you should consider it as a duty to yourself!

The time - out of house - you dedicate to those physical exercises will also help in the emotional maintenance of the caretaker, and finally will assist considerably in the well-being of the patient.