The Inner Battlefield
The emotional reactions in the patient and his environment and how to facing them.
When there comes finally the last call from our aching and sick body, we run to the doctor who diagnoses an advanced state of the illness. In state of rage, depression, anxiety, solitude, one feels unjustly punished; repudiates to himself and blames the others for his situation.
In spite of these emotional reactions, one more is to feel sorry for himself, with feelings of abandonment and guilt against himself and his family.
This is to be faced with love and compassion and - on behalf of the relatives and friends - with attitudes of unconditional support. The patient often has the fear of being abandoned, of being relegated or discriminated.
To make it agreeable
The following recommendations want to turn out to be simple, perhaps also obvious, nevertheless they can influence very much the well-being of the patient:
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Our attitude must always be positive, happy, with encouraging words and proving to be calm, even in the most difficult moments. This helps the patient to feel very much safe and protected. You can achieve this attitude easily with the help of the proven Sedona Method.
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To make the ill person feel useful or even asking him/her for advices to help in the family circle, taking in account as the disability of the patient.
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Another form of help is as it is advancing the illness, to place the objects to his scope so that he/she could have something of independence, be those the clothes, the objects for personal hygiene, the objects that distract in moments in which the person to her/his care is occupied, the drinks and meals that do not suffer deterioration leaving them out a lot of time, as fruits, water, sweets and others.
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To have the company of an animal, this equally is important, a bird or dog, cat - and of course this depends on the acceptance of the patient towards the company of an animal or of the medical indications.
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To place the disposition of the furniture in such a way that the patient could move freely around the house, already be in wheelchair or if he/she still can walk, it is better that she/he does not stumble over objects in the way.
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If the person suffers from a mental disability, not to leave sharp objects or medicines to his/her scope, since she/he unintentionally might get hurt.
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Never leave him/her alone, nor shut up. This is harmful to her/his physical and mental health. To re-decorate his/her environment most agreeable and accessible for her/his convenience, to taken care with his/her personal appearance - this increases her/his self-esteem, gives him/her more self-assurance.
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Always call to her/his mind the good moments she/he had passed, to remember anecdotes that makes him/her smile.
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Avoid noises that startle or put her/him nervous.
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Avoid discussions in front of him/her.
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Avoid of complaining about the weariness that produces his/her care.
These behaviours will provide a peaceful and harmonious environment, both to the ill person as well as to the family and friends.